We at suitablematch.com / asianmatches.com are committed to helping our members succeed quickly and smoothly. We had introduced "Suitable Manual Match" service for our members in which we help our members to get rid of online matchmaking issues such as candidate screening, email culture and online security issues. We would appreciate our members to learn about online safety with the hope that this service will become the safest service to connect souls for south-east Asian community. While liars, cheaters and imposters certainly ply their craft on the Web, you’ll also find them almost everywhere including at festivals, temples, gurudwaras, churches, mosques, at cocktail parties, and occasionally sitting across from you at your local café. Regardless of where, or how, you meet someone, meeting a new person is never a risk-free activity. A little caution will reduce your risk in these matters of the heart

The most important rule we have found from our experience is that a Paid (Gold, Star, Platinum, Club) member authenticity and seriousness is verifiable. All Paid (Gold, Star, Platinum, Club) members are undoubtedly serious and in approx. 80% cases (please note: NOT ALL) authenticity can be verified.

Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. Anyone moving too fast on you is likely to disappear as fast as he/she comes. You must collect several pointers (aka data points). Email Id, Full Name, Work Phone and One Personal / Professional Reference. There is no authenticity for online users specially the UNPAID members (Regular Members)!

• Never include your real external email address, personal Web site URL, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying information in your profile or first emails you exchange with other members. 
• Make sure your email signature file is turned off, or does not include identifying information, when corresponding with a member via your own email. 
• Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for this information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it. 
• Always "save" any outgoing messages in your mailbox, while using our system to communicate the default is set to "save" messages in Sent Folder.
• Take all the time you need to become comfortable with someone before revealing any personal contact information. 
• Ask questions and make sure you are satisfied with the answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be selective.

A photo will give you a good idea of the person's appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling about your correspondent. In fact, it’s best to view several images of this person in a variety of settings: casual, formal, indoor, outdoors. If he or she continuously comes up with an excuse, it may be because that person has something to hide. Getting a photo scanned is less than ten dollars at Kinko’s, so there is little excuse for not doing it. DO NOT take a photo of a person for granted. There is no verification if a photo actually does belong to the member.

• Call only from a phone where caller-id is blocked
• Do not give out your personal phone number to a stranger. 
• It is highly recommended you speak with the person at least once at his/her work ph#. A personal/professional reference would be add confidence. Please do make sure by asking someone indirectly if the person works at that work place. e.g. calling the main number and asking for an employment check!
• We recommend you speak with the person several times before meeting at a public place.

Depending upon how much data you have on the person you can decide if you want to meet the person at a romantic "elegant" setting or a local coffee shop. If you have come to know person real well through above pointers and a few months then think about taking a "Rose Flower" or a bouquet in your first meeting; remember your first impression is your last impression. Both parties will be judging each other with respect to data collected via web, email and phone.

• Do not communicate any further with the person if he/she: Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, profession, employment, etc. OR Appears in person to be significantly different from his or her online personal profile.
• Always tell someone where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date’s name, work, home telephone number with that person. 
• Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time when many people are present, and when the meeting is over, leave on your own as well. 
• A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time when a lot of other people will be present is often a fine choice. 
• Please avoid extreme negative tone or negative comments about anything, this is not a sign of openness (Freedom of Speech!!!) but can cause problem(s) for you, as people have a tendency of rejecting when someone is extremely negative. State the truth that you feel but do not over-emphasize it.

We will be delighted to help you and make your experience searching a life-partner as smooth as possible.

Please feel free to write to me or any counselors here at SuitableMatch.com with any feedback or help needed. I/we will personally make sure your profile stands out the best and "you get what you pay for".

Best of Luck
Regards,
SuitableMatch/Asianmatches Team