What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? Build upon your good qualities, and use them to help improve your poor ones. You are the basis for the whole process. Make a list of things you like about yourself. Then make a list of things you don't like. Get input from your friends on how they feel about you. Look at your lists and see what good habits you already possess, and go from there. Don't just be yourself, be your best self-possible.

Something important and sober to think about:
You attract what you are; sick attracts sick. I know this is a hard fact to realize, but when you complain about your psycho ex- who selected her? You did. Same thing for why class act people are not attracted to you. Make sure you're not severely broken when you go out into the world, or you may find yourself in a chaotic and miserable relationship.

A Chivalric Gentlemen does not let other things rule his life. He is his own master. Bad habits include excessive drinking, smoking, obsession with pornography, gambling, impersonal habits, or anything that controls you. If you have anything you are addicted to, seek help now. Do not wait to get help.

Shower and wash at least daily. Wear deodorant and cologne, but not excessive amounts. Brush your teeth. Comb your hair. Look neat. Dress appropriately.

If you think this is excessive or unnecessary, remember how much trouble most women go through for you. They wear make-up, uncomfortable but fashionable clothes (i.e. high heel shoes, bras, etc.), and diet often (even if they have no need to)- just for you! Are you really worth it pal? Prove it! You should put forth a strong effort as well.

Always be honest, but not to a fault. Be loyal to your friends, and especially towards ladies. If others do not believe you are gentlemen, how can you claim to be one? Maintain respect in yourself and others will respect you.

Don't do anything that will make you lose respect in women or yourself. Sex is the ultimate expression of love, and should only be used as such. If you absolutely *must* have premarital sex (Remember though, a gentleman does not let anything control him), save it until you are at least in a deeply intimate relationship, or better yet- engaged, or best of all- married.

God will guide and help you with your problems; you just have to let him. People waste millions of dollars on psychics to guide their lives. Praying is free, and 100% reliable in God's own way. Knights of the past fought for the honor of women, their kingdom, and above all, God.

Anger can control you as well. NEVER raise a hand to a woman. Above all NEVER (with a capital NEV) hurt a woman in any way- emotionally, physically, verbally, or sexually. If you tend to have a problem with this, seek help now! Don’t let anything like this go unresolved.

If you are planning to use the guise of being a gentleman to portray a facade, get sex, or some other dark plot- give up now. You cannot hide forever. A real gentleman is not a player. A real gentleman is not fake. You will always be discovered. No one will have respect for you, because you don't have respect for anyone, including yourself. Girls don't believe that there are any real men out there. Prove them wrong--in a good way.

If you are doing your best to be a chivalric gentleman, you should be proud of yourself. Don't get cocky, just be confident. You don't need to act superior to others, because people will start to resent you. Also, don't belittle yourself in front of others. Even if you have to, pretend to be confident, it will still raise your spirits.

Don't neglect your male buddies. They are great for helping you deal with any rough aspects of any relationship you are in. Learn to swallow that fragile male ego. Admit when you are wrong, ask for directions, cry if you feel like it, etc. A gentlemen's ego is neither a hindrance nor fragile.

Resolve any issues that develop between you, hopefully with them, but most in yourself.